Saturday afternoon and Sunday morning

Depression is nothing if not predictable. Not so much in when it comes back as in that it always does seem to come back. I don't like to talk about it anymore, not to anyone, so I just write about it here, and wait for it to go away.

When I don't want to get out of bed, and I don't want to do any of the things that I need or like to do, I make myself do them anyway. It helps a little bit. It helps to go out walking on Sunday morning and find that Running Lady is out running, and that Bike Helmet Guy is out for his morning ride, and that my neighbor is out walking the World's Happiest Dog. I don't really even know most of these people, but we always say hello because we're neighbors, and we like to be outside on Sunday mornings, even when it's cold. And you can't feel completely bad after two minutes with the WHD.

Another thing that's predictable: It always feels like it will never go away, and like the fog will never lift, but it always does.

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My younger son is a planner. He likes to be prepared. You never know, for example, when you might need a mini survival kit packed in an Altoids tin, or a large notebook and pens in every color, or a rolled-up towel, so he usually just tries to bring everything with him, just in case. He loves to go on trips and outings, and planning and packing are his favorite part of every trip.

We have to rein him in sometimes. Deep in the weeds of gathering every possible thing that he could ever possibly need, and in figuring out the perfect system for organizing and carrying it all, he will forget that one small 13-year-old boy won't enjoy a trip to Hersheypark when he's carrying a forty-pound pack containing extra socks and gloves, a freezer pack to keep chocolate from melting, a flashlight, and a water bottle big enough to sustain an expedition through the Gobi Desert. "Put that back," we tell him. "There are no circumstances under which you'll need a scientific calculator. And your fielder's glove is too heavy to carry all day."

I haven't been to Hersheypark since I was 15 or so. My son sent me pictures (he was invited to join a friend's birthday trip), and it's nothing like what I remember. But he had fun, and he bought king-size candy for all of us: A Mr. Goodbar for my husband, Reese's Cups for my other son, and a four-piece Mounds for me. I still have three left. So things can't be all bad.

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And I think that's all for now.